Wondering why you are not successful or perpetually giving up? Look no further than “calendaring.” I’m not sure how many of you have attempted to plan your time, so that you could accomplish more, or create more of what you want in your life. The majority of people end up like myself in the past, defaulting to the most common behaviors that suck up most of our time. These include but are not limited to: saying yes to things that you don’t really want to do, checking your email, procrastinating by binge watching Netflix, multitasking, being a perfectionist, putting out fires, social media and poor planning.
Some of the most successful individuals recommend the tool of calendaring to achieve goals. We all know how much we would benefit from planning ahead of time, executing on those plans and honoring our words. Then, why is it so difficult for some of us?
Well, until you figure out what your default settings are, you will keep repeating these patterns. Let me tell you about my experience with calendaring. The first time I attempted to do it, I lasted about a week and then decided it wasn’t for me. I recently picked this tool back up, about 6 six weeks ago, to try out again and have not stopped ever since. The first few days of calendaring were practically torture. I felt like I was hustling to beat the clock and telling myself that I would never continue this new focus, because I didn’t have what it took (aka not good enough), nor did I have the time (scarcity mentality).
Once I realized the space I was coming from it stopped me in my tracks. I was able to course correct at that point. Knowing that my default setting has always been I’m not good enough and I have never had enough time, money or anything for that matter. I had uncovered this long before this experience; however, I truly felt the effects of how it was playing out in my life when I focused on using this new tool. Once I had this realization I decided to adopt the thoughts; I am capable, I can do amazing things and that I would be a badass and master this invaluable tool. Coming from this new place of abundance, it allowed me to have “FUN” seeing what I could create once I set my goals, placed them on the calendar and honored my word and followed through. In the past six weeks, I have accomplished so much and have had so much fun throughout the process. This is a tool that I will implement for the rest of my life.
So, my challenge to you is to decide on what’s most important to you. Your top 3 most important things need to be scheduled first; family time, work and your must do’s. Then figure out a goal you want to focus on, figure out the steps that it will take to achieve that goal and then place them on the calendar. Now, get to work , honor your word and follow through . If you have resistance, looking deeper into the resistance is one of the most valuable lessons you could gain. Ask yourself, what am I telling myself? Write that down. That is your hurdle. All of the thoughts and ideas that keep coming up telling you it won’t work ARE the way to accomplish it. THAT is your hidden gem. It is there to reveal to you what your default setting is. What are your most common reasons, that stop you in your attempts to reach your goals?
Are you coming from a scarcity mentality that was similar to my default setting? You can create an abundant mentality that will allow you to have fun working towards your goals and REALLY enjoy your life. The bottom line is that yes, calendaring is extremely effective in terms of getting what you want done and reaching your goals. More importantly however, it’s about the process of showing you that whatever reasons come up that make you want to quit or leave you feeling uninspired, are the same reasons that get in the way of reaching all of your goals.
As I have said in previous videos, the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. When you gain this awareness, you truly have the keys to the kingdom, friends.
I DARE you to take this calendaring challenge. Once you become aware of those default settings that are holding you back, you have the option to change them!
I’d love to hear about your results. Let’s THRIVE, friends!